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Isn’t It Romantic?
in a posh hotel or a trip to Paris, I look for it until I find it. I like a
by Valerie Nusbaum big pieces of jewelry or dozens of challenge. He has to be careful
roses—things like that.” around me, because sometimes he
He replied, “I did that whole makes a joke and ends up with a
luxury suite thing, remember? And pair of black satin shorty pajamas.
“Randy, when you have a few garlicky and no raw onions, and it didn’t go well.” He’s correct. It Oh, yeah, I found those babies and
minutes I have a couple of questions also nothing that causes gas. He wasn’t great, but mainly because he wore them.
for you,” I called to my dear asked why I wanted to know. I we’d heard about the hotel/resort Sometimes, I get it right without
husband. replied that I was doing some from Randy’s former boss and meaning to. For Christmas, I wore
He walked slowly into my studio research. the place turned out to be not all myself out shopping and wrapping
where I was doing some cleaning “For a column? Or are you that luxurious. Plus, I knew about and trying to find things that would
up, and he sheepishly asked, “What planning to romance me?” he asked, the trip from the start. It wasn’t make Randy’s face light up. It
is it you think I did?” and he did that thing where he a surprise and grand gestures are turned out that the gift he liked best
“Nothing. Did you do wiggles his eyebrows, which is silly supposed to take one by surprise. was the little slot machine bank
something? Oh, never mind. I need because that always makes his head “You don’t like surprises. You I’d bought on impulse as a joke. I
to know what you’d consider the hurt. don’t handle them well at all.” He’s got the beautiful necklace that I’d
perfect romantic evening.” I pointed out that dinner at right about that, too. It’s just that described and asked for.
He made that face—the one home would be fine as long as I we women get tired of having to tell The more I think about it, the
that’s a cross between fear and didn’t have to do the cooking. It’s our men what we want. Why can’t more I realize that Randy is right.
smelling something awful—and not that I mind cooking a nice they figure it out on their own? I It makes sense for us to plan trips
replied, “I don’t know. You can’t meal for Randy. I do it all the time, know Randy isn’t a mind-reader, but together and to discuss buying
just hit a guy with a question like but we women sometimes like to he lives with me and sees me every tickets to concerts and plays,
that and expect the right answer.” enjoy a meal that someone else has day, so shouldn’t he know what I because we don’t always know how
I assured him that there are no prepared. Right, ladies? like and don’t like? Granted, if I the other is feeling. OK, I know how
“right” answers to the question. I In my research, I really was just tell him what I want and am very he’s feeling and what he’s thinking,
simply wanted his opinion, and I trying to get a handle on how we specific about it, I usually get exactly but he can’t read my mind. We’ve
urged him to say the first thing that look at romance and what we find the present I’m looking for, but it’s already established that. It’s usually
came to his mind. romantic. Do men view romance not a surprise. Oh, I pretend that a good idea for us to choose a
He thought about it for a differently from women? Do men it is. We women all do that, don’t restaurant together, too. Please don’t
minute and told me that his perfect even know what romance is, or do we? Wouldn’t it be nice just once tell him that I said he was right.
romantic evening would start with they care, for that matter? not to have to go through all those That would really put a damper on
dinner at home, preferably nothing For me, something as simple as machinations to get “the gift”? In the romance.
Randy leaving me a note beside my truth, Randy has surprised me with
teacup in the morning is romantic. really great things over the years,
He fills my tank with gas without and he’s come up with good ideas on
being asked. If he sees that I’m his own. I’m one of the lucky ones
cold, he gets a blanket for me. It because I have a man who makes the
doesn’t always have to be a grand effort. He just isn’t always sure what
gesture, although, just once, one of he’s looking for or why he’s doing it.
those would be really nice, too. I I, on the other hand, am like a
explained all that and Randy asked dog with a bone. I hear Randy say
what I meant by “grand gesture.” I he wants or needs something, or
said, “A weekend in a luxury suite would like to do something, and
